Tuesday, December 18, 2012
Haha it's been a long time since I've posted anything here. Since I'm not able to attend the group sharing tomorrow, I shall share here! I've been blessed with an iPhone and maybe through this I'll be able to glorify God.
I've really been happy just attending the camp. From not being able to go to missing only one sermon in itself is God's grace. I won't touch on anything related to the 主提, only because I haven't heard it all yet but I'll share on what I learnt through the workshops.
The topic on relationships has always been relevant as we are at the age where we are starting to take control over our on lives. But somehow today's workshop completely changed how I view relationships. It doesn't seem as relevant anymore because what I thought of a relationship in the past 20 years was completely wrong! I used to think that hey! I kinda like this girl hmm maybe I should confess to her and IF, by the SLIGHTEST chance that if she likes me too then we can be together! It's become normal, it has become what we use to determine whether we should go into a relationship or not. And that, is wrong. It is just ourselves wanting something from the other party to satisfy out own desire! Here are some points I took away from the workshops.
1) Relationships aren't supposed to be based on our feelings in the first place! It's a misconception defined by the modern world that we find our partners by the sinful desires of our hearts. A relationship is merely just a time where a girl and a guy get to know each other better.
2) A relationship is purely for the guy&girl to know each other better. NOT a time for intimacy. Intimacy is only for a couple that is married. Because God allows intimacy with ONE person, and that person is supposed to be your wife or husband. If there was to be any intimacy between a guy and girl during their dating stage, it would be considered an adultery if the relationship didn't work out in the end. There can only be a case where by you have intimacy with two persons and that's when the first one has already passed away.
3) The guy MUST be spiritually stronger than the girl because a guy has to take the role of a leader in the family. So guys have to be spiritually strong if not he is definitely not ready for marriage yet. Marriage is not about the two lovebirds. It is not something that proclaims that the couple loves each other. It is something that glorifies God. Marriage is a commandment, it is what God wants for all of us, which is to multiply so that there may be more in His likeness to worship Him. Although there are others with the gift of being single for life, but it only happens when that person has no feelings for the other gender at all.(explicitly speaking, that person has no sex drive!)
Until now I am still struggling with the fact that it isn't by our own feelings that we choose our partner. But the more I look at it, the more sense it makes when you don't base it solely by your own feelings? Because these feelings might be our sinful desires? But how then are we able to identify who is the right one?
This makes me even more thankful to God that all my previous attempts in confessing to a girl had all failed.
Brian
10:48 PM
